3 Ways to Deal With a Customer From Hell

Customer from Hell

[Reprinted with permission from The Customer Service Blog]

The Good News & The Bad News

There has been a lot of research over the years on the things that make customers cranky. One very relevant piece of work was conducted by M.J. Bitner et al in the early 1990’s. This study, entitled “The Service Encounter: Diagnosing Favorable and Unfavorable Incidents”, confirmed that the most common culprit in conflict with customers is actually us. While customers present the issues and challenges, it is most often the way we respond to these issues and challenges that causes customers to become ‘difficult.’ This is good news and bad news. The bad news is that, as much as we would like to point our fingers at our customers, the fingers often end up pointing back at us. The good news is that it means a lot, if not most, customer conflict is avoidable. Here are three things you can do to prevent situations from escalating into conflict.

1. Set expectations

Research by Gerard King and Gus Geursen illustrated how important it is to manage the expectations of your customers. They found that managing and meeting customers’ expectations is more important to customer satisfaction than the actual quantity and quality we deliver. This means, for example, that you shouldn’t say to a customer, “I’ll get this done right away,” because your customer and you may have different expectations of what ‘right away’ means. Instead, set your customer’s expectations by being specific; ie: “I’ll have this done for you by the end of the day.” Then make sure you deliver!

2. Listen

Nowhere is the art of listening more important than when trying to prevent conflict. A huge hot button for customers is when they perceive they aren’t being listened to.

3. Communicate how important they are

One of the most common triggers for conflict is when a customer begins to believe that you just don’t care about them. It’s important that you verbalize how important they are with statements such as, “I want to get this right for you,” “You’re an important customer for us,” “let’s figure out how to make this work,” etc.

There are, of course, many other conflict prevention strategies available to us, and some awesome dealing with difficult training programs,  but these are three of the most powerful. Good luck with them!

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